Sunday, January 3, 2010

Right or Wrong-- a thought for the New Year.

There are people who are always looking for (and sometimes discussing) the bad in other people... even in the human race at large. "What's wrong with ____ is ______..."

And there are people who are always seeing the good in everyone, even sometimes when it might seem undeserved.

I know this is obvious... It's important to surround yourself with the latter. It is such a rewarding feeling to be around people who always see your good qualities. Yet, I've sometimes forgotten it. And when I did, I found myself "set up for failure." No matter how hard you try to be your best & show someone your best "you," it will never work if they're looking for what's wrong with you.

I, like most people, ;) am just an imperfect human. If someone's looking for my faults, they WILL find them. So rather than try to play the "hide your faults" game from someone who looks for them, why not just choose to be around those looking for what's RIGHT about you? Soooo much happier!

And yet... ironically, I ALSO had to remind myself yet again, to BE the one looking for good!! Sheesh, really?? That perfectionistic side of me seems constantly to need reminded of when to back down. ;)

Simple formula... Want to see the good in those around you and in humanity? Look for it.

So, my new post-it reminder quote near my computer reads:

"If you're looking for things wrong with people, you'll find them! Everywhere!!

So... don't."

New Year's Eve Blue Moon

10 comments:

Gary Heller said...

You know, Kenna, this is a wonderful post. I really don't like being around people that are constantly knocking others or always over critical of everything done around them.
However, what bothers me most is when I find myself doing the same.
I have made a conscious effort in the past to stop underlining the negatives and highlight the positives. It helps the mind and soul as well.
Thanks for the good words and wise philosophy.
Happy New Year

Celtic Cat said...

Kenna, your moon capture is beautiful!
Thank You for sharing your philosophy with us.

John Paul said...

such a beautiful shot of the moon.

jp

Sharon Mayhew said...

Lovely post, Kenna. I find it easy to overlook the negative (and find positives) in most people, but hard to find positive attributes in myself. I agree with Gary, associating with negative people is likely to cause you to be more negative. Good post, one we all should listen to and learn from. :)

catherinesherman said...

Gorgeous moon shot! It was too cold and snowy in Kansas City to enjoy it much in person. It is so true to surround yourself with people who look for the good. Be with people who will raise you up instead of put you down! That's why so many of us flock to your blog!

myan photography/zuppaartista said...

great post and great reminder kenna!
being positive all around is a great resolution to keep! :)
happy 2010 dear!
xx

Beholden-To-Nature (Kenna) said...

awww... wow. Thank you SO much for the WONDERFUL comments! You guys *really* are THE BEST!!!

Janelle said...

Thanks Kenna! The other great advice I've received is to put on your own armor of love. If you can feel everyone's love, you'll love more too.

Post Grad Hair Cut said...

This is such a good post to read. I think that we get so caught up in how we should act, how others should act, what we should be, what others should be that we forget to just exist.

Beholden-To-Nature (Kenna) said...

Exactly! ...Nice hair cut (& 'stache), btw. ;)